There are two types of people in this world. Actually, that’s a lie. There are MANY types of people in this world, but for simplicity’s sake we’re going to squeeze them into two buckets.
The Pessimists and The Optimists
Scratch that, let’s go ahead and put them on a spectrum.
Most days, I sit wayyyyyy over here.
As a true-to-form optimist, I tend to see the best in situations (most days). I’m a walking heap of hopeful and I sprinkle sunshine in my morning coffee.
I’ve discovered, though, that it may in fact be possible to be optimistic to a fault. Let me explain.
I believe that all people are inherently good. I once got into an argument with my college roommate about Hitler probably having at least one redeeming quality. Yeah, I stood up for Hitler. Do you see where I’m going with this optimistic to a fault thing? I’m optimistic that all people, somewhere deep down, are good-hearted. I trust most everyone until they give me a reason not to.
I always expect the best outcome of things, or at least I hope for it. I’m all about the idea that positive energy brings positive outcomes. But the truth is, being so hopeful all the time can be a good way to make a letdown become a major letdown. The more you build up the chance that something wonderful could happen can make the heartbreak of things not going how your planned even harder.
At times this may be a disadvantage...
like applying for jobs you aren’t qualified for or day dreaming about coincidentally running into your celebrity friend-crush and having them realize how cool you are and then magically becoming bffs. But really, Jennifer Lawrence, can I please just bump into you on one of your trips home to Kentucky already? I think we’d be great pals.
I dream, a lot. And not very realistically, I might add. I love to think about my future home, traveling to exotic places, making millions while working from home and raising my twelve perfectly behaved little children in our antique farmhouse mansion. (Okay fine, maybe just four moderately-behaved heathens.) The problem is that I’m dating a realist that likes to remind me how the world works. As an optimist, sometimes I don’t want people to bring me down from my daydream. It’s like having a bouncer kick you out of the bar right when your favorite song comes on because you’re “getting out of hand” and dancing with deli meats is “frowned upon” in Kroger. (So I like dancing in grocery stores, what about it?) The truth is, every optimist needs a realist in their life, or at least someone to remind them that good things take time. Even though you might want to accuse them of just being pessimistic and killing your vibe.
how else are you supposed to have life goals if you don’t day dream a little? There’s enough negativity in the world, sometimes it’s healthy to think about the possibilities the future might hold. If it’s your daydream, make it one worth dreaming about.
Listen, being an optimist isn’t always easy. And, I’m definitely not saying that it’s always right.
This world takes all kinds of kinds. As an optimist, you might find yourself disappointed at times. Things may not end up like you hoped, people may not always be who you expect, and your dreams may be too big for others to grasp.
But seeing the good in people, situations, and tomorrow is never a bad idea.
Life happens, and maybe your perspective will ebb and flow as it does. It’s a spectrum.